Expanding our capacity to love and be loved and preparing the space for Great Love in our lifetime is important to having a fulfilling life – a life well lived.
Relationships can be wonderfully inspiring and are truly one of life’s greatest adventures. They provide you with the greatest opportunity to learn, grow and live life fully and with happiness.
Love is truly the ultimate and highest goal to which we can aspire. When love reigns and is embedded in your way of life, everything seems easier. Love changes our perception of absolutely everything – even the smallest and simplest of things can bring you great joy.
Those of us who have been abandoned, abused, rejected or betrayed in some way understand the pain that comes from being vulnerable with others and then treated poorly. From this position how easy it is to then shut down and retreat so far into ourselves that we conceal our innermost thoughts and feelings from others and at times, even from ourselves. It does not feel safe to trust, it does not feel safe to love or to even be loved.
From this point, in order to become Loved-Up …there is often substantial healing that needs to be done to create a solid foundation so that you can feel secure to not only desire and give love, but to feel loveable and allow yourself to be loved. Most people can form any kind of relationship but ultimately one needs to carefully prepare and create the space for Great Love to enter.
There is nothing wrong with being happily single. It is a life that can afford you many exciting adventures and excesses that are not always available or a part of married life. Yet…there is something deliciously fulfilling and expansive in having, and being a part of a Great Love.
Each person has the capacity to profoundly love another. And when it happens, it is important to not let it slip through your fingers. Marvel at life’s gift, treasure it and ensure you preserve your Great Love.
A Great Love allows us to shine and flourish in ways we did not even know were possible. Despite relative abundance in our modern world, there is still so much sadness and a deep lack of fulfilment within many societies. Being unable to liberate oneself from past hurts, unable to trust or feel secure, to constantly hide and deny true sentiments means that some people never find their Great Love. Even within a relationship people can feel incredibly alone and lonely. Most of us seek a life-long union – it seems to give our life more meaning and even brings more depth to what we already have.
Whilst the internet and its suite of social software keeps us connected, and we can travel from place to place with relative ease, loneliness is growing and we seem to be more disengaged from one another than ever before. We have an abundance of food, we’re well dressed, sexually free yet…too many people are lost and have only the most superficial contact with others. There appears to be a lack of true bonding.
In fact, recent data from the Australian Bureau of Statistics predict an increase in the number of single person households of 1.7 million over the next 20 years. We sometimes forget that the shop assistant, our work colleagues and the person we pass on the street is relevant and has a story worth listening to. We seem to forget that relationship, love – is life.
I am not an advocate that we have to be ‘perfect’ or ‘patched up’ to attract and keep a Great Love. I certainly wasn’t – far from it. In my case, some nurturing of the soul needed to be done. I still dance with some of my demons to this day – just less often. I also feel very fortunate to have a husband and a few long standing friendships that look at how far I have come in life rather than focus on my shortcomings. They take me any way I turn up and…love me.
Glorious Great Love… comes from knowing who you are, your strengths and weaknesses and loving yourself despite your flaws. It comes from knowing what you want (and why you want it) from your Great Love. Above all else, it requires us to be authentic and true to ourselves.
It’s human to be flawed. Knowing your personal strengths and weaknesses can help in many ways. Armed with this knowledge it is generally easier to make better decisions. I also believe that our strengths can be our weaknesses and vice versa. And… knowing both sides of the ledger brings greater clarity with the capacity to draw upon the more positive components of each when it serves you best.
Immersing yourself in knowing and understanding yourself or another and being fully appreciated and understood and most of all, deeply loved for all that you are, is bliss. The simple truth is that we need one another, we are not meant to live in isolation. We hunger for relevance, to be connected, valued, nurtured and respected. In essence being human encompasses the need to belong.
But…are you truly ready for a Great Love? Are you able to look at yourself with love and see your value? Are you able to look beyond yours or another person’s inadequacies and see deep into their heart and the many gifts being offered? Do you know what delights you, what has you feel safe, what you value most dearly and what makes your heart sing?
Just wanting a Great Love – is simply not enough. Without doubt, our focus is best placed on the day to day ingredients of what makes a sustainable loving relationship, one that is filled with love, acceptance of one another, reliability, respect, appreciation, compassion, affection and kindness. But this of course demands more of us, it demands full consciousness, our committed attention and focus.
Being Loved-Up is both your birth right and your responsibility. Hence the need to lay the ground work and prepare for your Great Love – you really do owe it to yourself.
In your quest for your Great Love you must decide to be honest and authentic about yourself, and the way you want to live.